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12 WILLFUL WAYS TO FIND A POTENTIAL SOUL MATE
If you’re yearning for someone special to share your life with, make a commitment to yourself to get out and meet lots of new people. Meeting people is not difficult; it just involves making a lifestyle change – getting out of your comfort zone and making your presence known.
Here are 12 wilful (consider another word) ways to find a potential soul mate By allowing just a few of these ideas, you’ll be able to fulfill your life with like-minded people.
1. GET INVOLVED IN YOUR COMMUNITY
If you want to expand your social circle, be proactive. Form a social committee in your townhouse, condominium or apartment complex and get to know your neighbours. Create a welcome wagon atmosphere for new neighbours by hosting or co-hosting a co-ed potluck dinner party. Coordinate special events throughout the year to stay in touch and build friendships. Ask each person to bring a friend to increase the number of attendees.
2. VOLUNTEER YOUR TIME
What is your favourite charity? What issue do you believe in strongly? A great way to meet suitable mates is to relate with people who hold common interests. In fact, shared common interests are one of the best foundations upon which to build a new relationship. So make a resolution to support a worthwhile cause.
3. GO OUT AND NETWORK
Do you own your business? Do you know people who would appreciate you representing their business at a function? Most networking groups allow you to take centre stage and introduce yourself and your company. There are several groups that offer such forums. Your objective is to find a group with the appropriate demographics that fit you and your company. If you’ve never networked before, let others take the lead. You never know who you may meet.
4. JOIN A SPECIAL INTEREST CLUB
Wine, cooking, and boating clubs, to name just a few provide interesting forums for meeting new faces. Special interest clubs allow you to communicate and gain hands-on experience with others who share your interests. Watch specifically for events that are geared for singles your own age group.
5. LEARN SOMETHING NEW
You are never too old to learn something new. Community centres, the Learning Annex, and local colleges offer educational courses and seminars on a wide array of subjects such as relationships, cooking and dance lessons. Industry specialists teach most courses and you can find many courses at reasonable prices. Classes with at least 30 to 40 students will provide opportunities for you to get to know many new people during the course semester.
6. DEVELOP YOUR SPIRITUAL SIDE
Religious and spiritual groups are a great place to develop one’s spiritual self. Often there are more women than men; as women tend to be more comfortable exploring this side of life. This is a fantastic way for men to explore their inner selves while having the opportunity to meet women. Be honest with yourself; Refrain from having a hidden agenda. People belonging to these groups genuinely want to share with one another and will have your best interest at heart. Take your time and do some research. Read theology and spirituality publications. Attend multiple churches, temples, mosques and synagogues until you find a place that fits your core values and ethics.
7. GET OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE
Make a commitment to yourself to enjoy the excitement of trying new things. Living your life through other peoples’ life experiences or hanging on to past relationships may stagnate your personal potential. You may find your social circles have become limited because of familiarity. Strive to reach beyond your comfort zone and explore the unfamiliar. Visit a part of town you’ve never been to before. Try a new restaurant or cuisine from a different culture. Take up a new hobby. The possibilities are endless.
8. PLAY CO-ED SPORTS
Co-ed sports like tennis, volleyball, baseball and golf are terrific ways to meet potential mates. The numbers are usually even. After the game, the majority of participants attend a social gathering at a restaurant near by.
9. JOIN A SINGLES CLUB
There are a number of social clubs and matchmaking services for singles, each offering a variety of activities and events for every demographic background. Prices of membership packages vary so be sure to check around until you find one that caters to your specific needs. These organizations usually allow a trial visit or orientation to the club so you can experience the group before making a monetary commitment. If large events and groups intimidate you, opt to get involved in smaller events and activities. This will allow you to get to know a few members in time.
10. CHOOSE EVENTS WHERE YOU CAN MINGLE
Make sure you choose events and or activities that best suit your age, lifestyle and personality. Remember, the goal is to attract the type of people that compliment you and your lifestyle. Spectator events like sport matches and theatre are not conducive to starting a conversation. Mix and mingles events on the other hand are a great way to meet new people and have fun at the same time. Interactive events allow you to mingle with people rather than just sit in one spot.
11. UPDATE YOUR IMAGE
People tend to base fifty percent of their assumptions on physical appearance. You only have seven seconds to create a positive first impression. Remember, you only get one chance to make a great first impression. Keep in mind others will begin to judge you before you speak. It is import to convey the best possible image you can by taking pride in your appearance. Wear clothes that make you feel good. Choose a hairstyle that reflects you and your personality. Update your wardrobe, glasses, hairstyle and make up application so the best possible YOU shines through. It can be easy as wearing the right colours to make you stand out in a crowd and be easily remembered. The key is to find a colour scheme that compliments your natural features (hair, eyes and skin tone). Hire an Image Consultant to assess your style personality. The outcome is developing a style that fits your personality and your budget.
12. CREATE YOUR OWN SUPPORT NETWORK
The New Year is a wonderful time to adopt a new attitude. Take the time not only to update your closet but also your email and telephone directories. Make a resolution to surround yourself with positive people who lift your spirit and energy. People who compete with you, criticize you, or ignore you in your time of need can undermine your self-confidence and zap your positive energy. Make a resolution to build solid relationships with people, who are involved with others, have genuine personalities and express interest in you and your well being. At the same time, give back the same qualities you wish to receive and you will find your life more fulfilling.